Tuesday, June 21, 2011

…On Sunday Masses and Religion…

"I like your Christ; I do not like your Christians.
Your Christians are so unlike your Christ."

-Mahatma Gandhi


I am a Catholic Christian, though not a “model” example. But I do take to heart the Apostle’s Creed. I do firmly believe in God. In my own way, I believe that I have a strong faith in Him. I was schooled in Christian schools ever since I was a kid. I am thankful that the formative years of my faith were spent within Don Bosco Mandaluyong, because I think they built a strong enough foundation for me to always put Him ahead of everything that I do.

Now that I got that out of the way, let me make my points. I rarely go to Church on Sundays since college. I don’t blame my being a Philosophy major, even though people tend to attribute it to that. Philosophy didn’t teach me to think, but it inspired me to be more critical. And being critical made me sad, as a Catholic Christian, that parishioners have somewhat become mindless drones who go to Church without knowing why they’re really there. The hourly masses at Baclaran on Sundays have become like free-seating movies; people come in anytime, and leave after they reach the same part of the next mass. At another church, some old people who seem like regular church-goers don’t seem to know when to sit and stand without some lector telling them to. Everyone is looking at everyone else feeling out what they would do.

I still go to mass occasionally, but only because it’s family time. I sometimes refuse, because I find it hypocritical for me to go there and not want to be there. I want to hear mass because my heart openly wants to hear the word of the Lord and to be with my family, not because I am dragged to go out of obligation and to have the opinions of men shoved into my system. While it is nice to know that the men who serve the Lord are all keeping up to date with current events, I’m a bit disappointed that they use the Homily to spread their cause. I write not because of my inclination towards the issue, but rather because I feel as if my religion is being alienated by political intentions.

My high school Religion teacher (now a priest), on the issue of EDSA 2, did explain to me why the Church had to be involved. “To protect the morality of the nation from an immoral leader,” was the gist of what I learned from him. Today, the RH Bill and the Divorce bill are prominent topics that are inserted to Homilies I hear. I do not wish to defend any side; both have their pros and cons. But I do want to defend my Church. If I wanted to hear the Church’s view on the matter, I would gladly listen through different avenues (public forums, interviews, debates, etc) than in the House of God.

The Philippines may be the biggest/only Catholic country in Asia, but we have to understand that the constitution separated the Church and the state for a reason. As our population grew, so did the number of religions our country plays host to. Why, then, should the Church be so vocal to the extent of dedicating part of the Sunday Mass to discuss the “perils” of the proposed bills?

I am more inclined to believe that despite such a growing population, our nation is still not prepared for such radical changes. There are still the malleable minds of those parishioners I spoke of above, who will blindly follow what has been “taught” to them during the Homily. And to be fair, there are the media puppets, who dance to the tune of whatever is being thrown at them, blindly defending something they know only “parts” of, and not the whole picture.  

I just want my Church back.

Wednesday, June 1, 2011

...On Filipino Hospitality...

We, as a nation, are known to be generally hospitable. We accommodate visitors pretty well, we smile at people often, we talk to strangers, and we are just, generally nice. Best example; if you're walking on the road or even the mall, then someone stops to ask for directions, do you not try to help out? We just can't be rude. 

On Invitations and Greetings

We have this "nakakahihiya kasi" mentality that sometimes gets us to a situation we're uncomfortable with. While talking casually with people, we tend to sometimes bring up plans that they're not included, and we usually end up trying to invite them without the intention of really inviting them. For example:

1. "Gusto mo sumama?" - after opening a plan that originally didn't include person you're talking to, but it's with common friends. 
2. "Kain tayo!" - while munching on a burger for yourself, with no extra food on the table.
3. "Kamusta?" - the most generic greeting, and the first you would get from an acquaintance you haven't seen in a while.

These are the most common invitations we get. And just because we can't be rude and decline outrightly, we have these following answers:

Replies to invitations to an invitation or event you won't go to:
1. "Try ko." - They probably won't even try, but the effort has to be shown that you're interested, so as not to be rude. 
2. "Text text!" - You won't get any. They probably wouldn't text you either, anyway. 
3. "Habol ako." - Probably won't. But personally, I usually do.=P

Replies to above-mentioned eating invites:
1. "Sige lang, *add smile*" - Nicest way of saying "nakasubo na kaya lahat ng pagkain nyo para sa inyo"
2. "Ok lang, kakakain ko lang din" - But you haven't. Nakakahiya lang makiupo at maging masiba. 

Replies to "kamustahan":
1. "Eto, ok lang, ikaw?" - Basic conversation killer. You'd probably get the same "ok lang" reply, and conversation ends there. Then person pulls out the "pumapayat/tumataba ka" card.
2. 

On Ending Conversations

"Like"
"Haha"
"Oo nga eh"